September 2024 – Navigating Change and Transition

by | Sep 4, 2024

News ~ to sooth your soul – September 2024
Navigating Change and Transition

As long as I can remember I’ve associated Fall with a season of change. Perhaps it had to do with going ‘back to school’ and all that goes along with it. I moved six times before I graduated high school. That was a lot of practice making new friends, while on the contrary, I became very familiar with the feelings of loss incorporated with the changes. Whether change comes about in your personal life or career, the challenges can be greater when the change happens unexpectedly or against your will. Regardless, the basic approach to working through a life transition is the same and a professional life coach can make a great partner for people who have a desire to navigate and successfully move through a season of change and transition. Let’s explore insights and resources we can rely upon to help with a smooth transition.

Change is situational in nature. Not all change is positive or welcomed, yet without change growth is impossible. Proactive change elicits a desire to take new approaches, to seek something new in self, or others. People often resist change because they think about what they have to give up over what will be gained. Without proactive support most people would choose to go back to old ways even if the new way is better, because it’s comfortable and familiar.

Transition can be viewed as a three-stage internal or psychological process requiring one to adapt to a change in their external environment. Internal adaptations such as letting go of an old reality, old way of seeing things, a passing from one condition, stage of life, activity, or a move from one place to another. Transition begins with an ending and finishes with a beginning.

The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in these moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways, or truer answers. ~ M. Scott Peck
It begins with “the ending”. It requires an awareness of what you’re leaving behind and being able and willing to let go of old ways and an old identity. Some people may experience a sense of loss. Loss is a subjective experience, and being aware of who and how the change effects is helpful to aid in a positive transition process. Acknowledge the losses to who is affected with empathy and expect any and all signs of grief. It’s important to remember that even if you initiate the change, you are not responsible for the emotions of others.

The middle phase is referred to as the “neutral zone” where the old is gone but the new isn’t fully operational. In this phase, critical psychological realignments and repatterining take place. In a sense, your old outlook, attitudes, values, self-images and ways of thinking have to “die” before people can be ready for life in the present. During this phase people’s anxiety rises and their motivation falls. It’s natural for people to feel overwhelmed, confused, and uncertain about their future. This internal, psychological journey can take months, even years, depending on the nature of the change.

The third phase is the “new beginning” where people develop a new identity, experience new energy, and discover new purpose that allows the change to begin. People may want the change yet fear it at the same time. The change requires new commitment, a plan, and an action to be accountable for in order to move the transition forward. To successfully navigate this phase requires positive and consistent messages about the new beginning while not rushing it. The transition won’t be complete until all three phases/processes have taken place.

Changes that are often related to the onset of a transition;

  1. health diagnosis
  2. death of a family member
  3. new leadership at work
  4. move/new living environment
  5. birth of a child
  6. marriage/divorce
  7. loss/change of a job
  8. financial loss
Valuing proactive change
“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”
Ephesians 4:22-24
Life’s changes will continuously provide an opportunity to assess our perspective and adjust our attitude. Not easy, but possible. 
What factors can support a successful transition?

  • there is a deep sense of positive gain
  • when changes are initiated by the person
  • the person has external reinforcements in place
  • seek support and accountability
  • identify and remove obstacles
  • opportunities to practice new behaviors in a safe environment
  • positive acknowledgement or recognition for the change
  • having a clear vision for the future
  • realistic goals for incremental change or pacing
  • reflecting on positive steps forward
  • identify and develop skills for addressing backsliding
  • faith that you can be successful
  • grieve necessary losses that you’re letting go of
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